Communication is vital to healthy relationships. Questions people ask me frequently:
- How do I teach myself how to embrace and love ALL parts of me?
- What should I do to be able to have a better relationship with sex?
- How do I share with others what I am struggling with?
- What can I do to improve my sexual relationship with my partner?
One of the key answers to these questions is communication! Not just any communication though, it needs to be healthy communication. Healthy communication requires honesty and vulnerability with others, but more importantly, with yourself.
You have to be able to communicate with yourself the feelings you are experiencing.
This will require that you uncover the underlying emotions. The problem people often run into here is that there can be many mental and emotional blocks that cover those emotions (something I help you figure out!). It’s hard to dig deep into those emotions we push down and especially when we have confusing emotions at the top that are hard for us to sift through. But you need to ask yourself, what is it you truly need, and want? If you can’t communicate these important feelings with yourself, you won’t be able to effectively share them with others.
A good way to start opening that communication with yourself is to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be defined as
“A mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”
Practicing mindfulness will allow you to become aware and begin acknowledging your true feelings so you can have an open dialogue with yourself about your needs and wants.
You need to know what is going on for you when it comes to loving yourself, and your sexy self, and your relationship with sex. When you are uncertain about these things it makes having healthy relationships with others more difficult.
Healthy communication with others is essential.
Having healthy communication with others is also achievable! It does take practice though, just like having a healthy relationship with ourselves takes practice. It also takes time, vulnerability, and honesty. When we communicate with others it is imperative to listen to learn, don’t just listen to respond. As we strive to learn the needs and wants of others, we can create a safe space for us to openly discuss our sexual desires and wants. Doing so will improve our sex life, and help us to achieve greater satisfaction within our relationships!
Sometimes achieving healthy forms of communication isn’t possible to do on our own, and that is okay! That is why I work with women AND men on sexual empowerment, and healthy communication. Everyone deserves to feel sexually empowered, and I work with couples on finding that empowerment. Through relationship coaching, couples can find confidence with their sexy selves, and confidence with their partners!
Having open communication truly is essential! Without it, your relationship with yourself, with sex, and with others will be more challenging and create other (& possibly more difficult) issues in various areas of your life. Learning how to communicate effectively isn’t an overnight skill. It is a process and it takes time to learn. Go easy on your sexy self! Take small step. Start by trying to do one thing differently today than you did yesterday. Little by little, you will see improvements!
Nat Turner once said
“Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity.”
This quote has resonated with me for a long time, and is one of the main reasons I love focusing on helping my clients improve their communication. It is challenging to know what we need, and what those around us need if we are shutting ourselves off. As we effectively work on our communication, we truly can find clarity, and become our true sexy selves.
So who is with me?
Let’s let our hair down, embrace ALL of who we are, stop hiding, and share our amazingness with others!